Psychological challenges of veterans: a psychotherapist tells which stage of adaptation to civilian life is the most difficult
Kyiv • UNN
The first 2-3 months after returning from the front are the most difficult for the psychological adaptation of the military. Full emotional adaptation can take up to a year, and socialization and talking through the experience play an important role.
The first months after returning from the front are the most difficult period of psychological adaptation for the military. This was stated in an interview with UNN by clinical psychologist, psychotherapist, and trainer of support groups for veterans, Pylyp Dukhliy.
According to Dukhliy, the first two to three months are the most difficult, but full emotional adaptation can take up to a year.
"The most difficult stage of adaptation for the military usually occurs in the first few months after returning from the front. During the service, the psyche is in a state of mobilization, and psychological defenses are activated, which helps to withstand difficult situations. However, after returning, these defenses weaken, and pent-up emotions and experiences come to the surface. A person may feel confused because of the need to adapt to civilian life, which is much more complicated and less clear than military reality, where everything was more clearly defined," the expert notes.
He also believes that socialization is an important aspect of adaptation. After all, when a military man returns to civilian life, he continues to feel like a part of the army, despite the opposite reality. Therefore, as the expert notes, it is important to learn to stop thinking in terms of a military man and learn to return to the life of a civilian.
"It's difficult because the army gives a sense of dignity, simplicity and clarity in situations where there is an enemy and a friend, black and white. In civilian life, there are no such clear boundaries, and this can cause anxiety and misunderstanding," the psychologist says.
Quite often, injuries sustained by the military while performing their duties make people distance themselves from others and avoid social contacts. That is why the expert advises to overcome yourself and start resuming communication with people.
Philip Dukhliy is a veteran himself, so he admits that the best way for him to get through the first stages of adaptation was to talk through his own experiences and emotions.
"It's like the metaphor of food: when we don't digest something well, it's easier to 'throw it away' than to carry it around. It's the same with war experiences - it's an experience that no one would like to have, but talking about it helps ease the emotional stress. That's why it's an important part of adaptation," explains Dukhliy.
The expert also shared that lifestyle has a strong influence on the recovery of the psychological state. Therefore, sports, meditation, yoga, a well-established sleep schedule, and proper nutrition can be auxiliary means of adaptation.
Recall
On October 5-6, Kyiv will host an educational festival called "Education of Wonderland 2024". This event will combine two formats: an exhibition for parents and future students with free admission, which will present a wide range of educational opportunities - from kindergartens to adult education, and a forum dedicated to discussing the meaning, goals and future of education, as well as the need for change in society and the educational system.
One of the key speakers of the forum will be Pylyp Dukhliy, a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist and veteran of the Armed Forces of Ukraine. He will share his experience of working with military personnel who have survived captivity or severe injuries and talk about methods that help restore control and dignity. His presentation will focus on the importance of quality therapeutic contact between the client and the therapist as a key factor in effective rehabilitation.
